Thursday, March 9, 2023

Upon leaving and arriving

To say that much has happened is an understatement. 

Looks like I cannot change the name of the entire blog without starting a new one, so since 12 years have passed since becoming Texan, I think this will be the last entry here and a new one will begin.


Bethany, Joshua & Abigail were born in Houston, Texas. We celebrated 12 anniversaries together in Texas. Moved from Medical Center to Chinatown and then purchased our first house in Missouri City. 

Caleb went from a post-doc and somehow made it to director of science to writing protocols, managing budgets and finance in clinical trials for Head, Neck & Thoracic Cancer at MD Anderson. The Lord did not allow any matches for residencies. 

We served in HCA YES group for all these years as well. Saw many classes of graduates move on and forward. Witnessed births and deaths of beloved saints in His family. Learned to grieve and celebrate in all of the happenings of our extended church family. 

Grandma & Grandpa Chu moved to Sugar Land in 2015. Lawrence came to Austin shortly thereafter, and the Lord blessed us with Kristie in 2017. Survived Joshua's oral surgery at age 5, Hurricane Harvey, Storm Uri, swore off the use of a CPAP for Caleb's sleep apnea (whew, not a heart condition after an ER visit), and then there was something called Covid-19, a pandemic that shut-down the world in 2020. The kids went from public school to online school, to homeschool and then more virtual school. Learned to stay flexible.

Our medical school loans were forgiven January 2022. Both Caleb and I felt in February that something was going to happen to us and it was going to be a big change sometime during the year. Flew to SoCal in March, wondering if there would be a job in Irvine, CA. That didn't pan out as it was not His will. (Bethany was baptized though! 🎉) So we continued on - registered and received acceptances for Bethany & Joshua to attend Stafford STEM Academy and Abby to begin at Logos Prep. It was like college applications for elementary level children: registration fees, interviews, report cards, teacher recommendation letters, formal tests - the full gamut! We continued on with our responsibilities, with Caleb even beginning to hand off some responsibilities in order to step into a new role at work.

At the end of April, while cleaning the house, I mentioned to Caleb that we should get rid of all his medical school books as they're taking up space, collecting dust and super out-dated now. Thousands of dollars of texts and he received $1.45 back from Half-Price Books... not even enough for a boba drink! It was like the full death of any hope in self, when Abraham said to God that he was past the age of bearing children. Practicing medicine was no longer some pipe-dream, as there was simply no more dream for us. Over a video chat with Mom Bor during our usual Wednesday morning time, Caleb said, "Well, we'll take it a day at a time and accept from the Lord whatever He gives or does not give." It was maybe just an hour or so later that he receives a text from Charles Minn, good ol' Chucky asking if he's interested in going to Washington to practice medicine. He laughs, thinking it was a practical joke. Just like both Abraham & Rebecca laughs when God says, "This time next year, you will have a son." 

Due to physican burnout during the height of the pandemic, the state of Washington made a change in the law stating that any foreign medical graduate that had not gone through residency may now practice under a new provision labeled CE: clinical experience. Charles joined a new 1 yr old start-up and they were hiring. The company had 2 CE spots at the time and 1 was an Ukrainian doctor who was still waiting to start, and the other hopefully would be Caleb. We both marveled at the peace in our hearts when we accepted that this was no joke. This was the move, the big change and His timing. There was confirmation even in His speaking on Sundays: when the pillar of cloud and fire moves, even when inconvenient, we obey! 

Practically speaking, it didn't look like a wise move at first. The compensation was minimal, the cost of living stupdendously high in Washington, the environment dark and liberal. The training would be minimal and the hours seemed ridiculously too good to be true. Yet as the days went by, God cleared the way. The compensation was increased to cover exactly what was needed, even for 3 children to be in a private school. And Grandma Bor's house would be prepared for us to move in at the right time.

Lawrence was extremely sad and even while Kristie was experiencing contractions, they came over that Thursday night to unload and express his thoughts. When he was done, he apologized, but didn't have too much to say and felt better. (Cousin Noah was born the next morning!) And of course grandparents struggled back and forth with how they felt about this move. Yet in all of what transpired in the next 2 months, it was undeniably God. Only God could have arranged and orchestrated what was to happen for us to move from Texas to Washington.

The contract was signed the day after summer conference. God's Hand was undeniable.



Cleaning and packing commenced right away. The next obvious question, what are we going to do with the house? And which private school would the kids attend? Presently, Beth & Josh began their summer camp schooling at Stafford STEM, getting a taste for what it was like being back in-person in a classroom after 2 years being at home.

My preference was to sell the house as I wasn't interested in being a long-distance landlady. However the saints asked us the amount we were to charge rent if we would rent. We figured an at-market rate and left it in our hearts as we didn't think this would really happen. Then we kept hearing about this family moving to Houston, wanting to rent. Meanwhile, I was pestering Caleb to settle on a moving company and book something early. Type-A personality at work!

The beginning of July, Caleb and I took a trip to Seattle to get his driver's license so that he could apply for WA state medical license and to purchase some beds for the kids. 

Next, while looking around online for private schools for the kids, we found one we liked, but after talking to admissions, we were informed that since we were so late (admissions usually begins the process during the fall of the school year before), our chance to have all 3 admitted would be <1%. We then spoke with 2 other schools, and while it was fine in collecting information, it wasn't until the 3rd one where the conversation was just different. Again, we experienced His peace knowing that this was the right school, despite it being one of the most expensive. The Lord will and has provided. School would begin August 31. 

After reading about how many moving companies cheat their customers based on box sizes, we were very careful in counting and labeling everything. Even when I struggled with wanting to bring many of the children's books and supplies, it was a lesson of a mom's heart to let go, even when I wanted things on behalf of the children. Near the end of July, I had moved the entire household's worth of boxes (nearing 50 lbs each) from upstairs to downstairs, from one room to another room and back, sorting by both size and company label. 💪💦 Now I knew why I had such a drive to do strength training for the last 1.5 years during the pandemic in addition to my desire to run. There were no physical injuries during this time. After learning to be quiet and waiting patiently for Caleb's timetable, a moving company was decided on the last week of July. 😅

The decision was also made that instead of driving from Houston to Bellevue in the heat of summer with all our possessions, we would fly on August 15. 

Still thinking we were going to sell the house, I began clearing things in a way to take photos for putting the house on the market. At the same time, we began to hold furniture & moving sales, trying to sell as much as we could, realizing that the moving quote was almost 10x the amount we paid to move from Bellevue to Houston 12 years ago. We were going to move light, and purchase what we needed when we arrived. Yet when the first week of August arrived, we were contacted that the same family that was looking for a house could not find anything close to the husband's workplace and needed to be out of their AirBnB by Friday, 8/5, after extending an extra week at their rental. Workers had come in through the previous weekend, painting our living room ceiling and the movers were scheduled to come either on Monday 8/1 or Tuesday 8/2. Since Sean, the husband was away on a work trip, Evelyn asked to come see our house Wednesday morning 8/3, so it was scheduled. I sent her my few house pictures that we took in preparation for sale. They were interested! 

The weekend before we had already moved over to Lawrence & Kristie's, staying in their spacious upstairs rooms. Painting finished on Monday and movers came in Tuesday right after the AC maintence was completed by Brother Wan. I immediately began cleaning after the movers left, but Brother Wan forgot to turn on the AC unit when he left! I was cleaning and dripping with sweat when Caleb came into the house and wondered why it was hotter inside than outside... in Houston, no less! After calling Brother Wan, and giving him all instructions in Chinese (!!), Caleb was able to turn on the AC units, allowing me to continue in a bit more comfort. It was a mad cleaning frenzy for the rest of the day. 

*Side note: both Caleb and I watched the movers take apart the grand piano, pack it up and move it to the truck. We also watched them take the white piano cover off and walk it out into the truck as it could not be wrapped onto the piano itself.

Joshua was so tired and unknowingly stressed with this major life transition, he slept-walked down the stairs from the playroom at Uncle Lawrence's house, looking around while completely asleep. Auntie Kristie was startled, asking him if he wanted water, but Josh didn't answer, turned and then walked back up the stairs. 😄

We returned on Wednesday to finish cleaning both inside and outside of the house, and I received a text from Evelyn telling me they were running 15 minutes late. I was thrilled with the extra 15 minutes of rest, as I needed to clean myself up and catch my breath. They arrived and were in awe of how big the house was, asking questions on house maintence, preparations for cold weather, and thrilled with the remaining furniture (again, 3 kids about the same ages as B, J & A!) - even happy to take all my leftover food and pantry items as they are Taiwanese. Sean is the foreign ambassador for the Taiwanese embassy, relocated from South America to Houston. Throughout the house viewing, Evelyn told me that she's totally happy with everything, and just waiting for the agreement from Sean. 

It was nearing noon, and I was getting slightly hungry... okay, to be honest perhaps hangry, and Caleb suggested we take the family to see the neighborhood, surrounding grocery stores and amenities as well as town square. I honestly and silently balked at the thought of driving to Sugar Land Town Square... thinking, "Why? How is seeing town square going to help them in this decision?!" But the Spirit told me to hold my tongue and so I held it in. We put them on speaker phone while we drove in front and they slowly followed behind us. I didn't know that they were driving THAT slow, but I started to feel anxious and really uncomfortable when we turned onto Hwy 6 and crawled at 25 mph, when it's posted at 45 mph... here in Texas. 😒 When we finally got to the town square area, Sean started exclaiming, "I've been looking for this place! A friend brought me here more than 10 years ago and I've been wanting to visit this same place but have not been able to find it. This is it!" We were just as surprised hearing him say so. Thank the Lord for His mercy in having me hold my tongue! I did have peace to say to them though, that for the sake of raising a family, this place was a very suitable place though it may mean more of a longer commute for the father.

Of course the kids got excited when they passed by the aquatic center and as soon as we got back to the house, Sean became very serious and said, "Okay, let's talk details." He then told us the rental amount that he was willing to pay and to our complete surprise, it was the exact amount that we had in mind from the beginning of July. The details were hammered out and before we departed, Evelyn said, "Wait! Before we go, we must pray and thank God for this house and arrangement!" And Sean who is not yet a believer said, "Yes, God was saving the best for me!" And we stood in the empty living room and gave thanks with such gratitude and awe.

The next day when we came back to the house to pick up remaining items, we saw that they had already moved in their luggage and household items and they were able to fully move out of their AirBnB in time. Totally a God-thing!

After the last remaining week in Houston, with lots of dinners with saints and play-times with church families, we flew to Seattle. Unfortunately, we had to get up around 3-4 a.m., which meant Abby did not sleep much and became terribly air-sick, throwing up a total of 6 times, even during the drive from the airport to the house after arriving in Seattle. Thankful for Mom and Dad picking us up with our many over-sized luggages and we started to settle in. The house still needed lots of cleaning and sanitizing, even though Mom had been cleaning as well. Surprisingly, the temperatures were just as high as Texas, and even more unbearable due to not having blinds or air conditioning. When we opened the cards and gifts from the saints in Houston, we were amazed at the generosity of our dear brothers and sisters! The sticker-shock of food and gas prices, the utilities and car registration fees, everything was adding up, yet the Lord was so good to us in providing exactly what was needed.

Caleb continually scoured Craigslist for furniture. We needed a kitchen table and chairs, sofas and lots of general household items as using plastic bowls and silverware while eating standing or on the floor was only sustainable for a short while. Then he came across this family not too far away that was relocating to the East Coast, and needed to clear everything out quickly. Bundling was the name of the game that Caleb's familiar with!! 😁 Their kitchen table matched our house decor, their formal dining table became our downstairs craft table, their sofas, air filters, majority of all kitchen items, glassware, the same bowls and plates I had left behind in Texas, now given to me multiple times over, the kids clothes (guess what? They had 3 boys), rolling backpack that Beth needed, adjustable beds that Caleb and I needed, laundry basket, tool chests, etc, etc. Getting to know the family, Caleb starts chatting and finds out the husband is Sister Joanna Wu/Sun's cousin!  This certainly is no coincidence, but another proof of our God's great love.




Our boxes and few pieces of furniture had been delayed for one week in Dallas, but it was okay given that we were well provided for by Grandma Bor's foresight. When the moving company arrived, the 2 men balked at the stairs in regards to moving the grand piano. They simply refused saying they did not have the right dolly and were not insured. This angered Caleb as he had already mentioned this as we signed the original contract. But the movers didn't care about the contract and just simply dug in their heels and said no. They left the piano, still wrapped up and standing on its side in the garage. We were at their mercy. For the next handful of days, I began to worry about where the piano cover was ... remember that?! I had unpacked just about all the boxes, cleaning like crazy so Joshua could recover from his allergy cough, but no piano cover in sight! I asked Grandma Bor how much she spent on the cover when she bought it almost 20 years ago, and it was hundreds of dollars. We shared this with the kids, unsure of what had happened, wondering if the moving company had lost the cover, in addition to 2 other smaller boxes. We had to then call and hire a local piano moving company to come, and they began charging us as soon as the phone hung up, for every minute until they arrived and finished the piano set-up. They milked us for the entire 45-minute process. And when they had finished, there was our original white piano cover! Both Caleb and I had seen the first movers hand-carry the cover to the truck, but now for some reason during the unpacking, it had been repacked onto the piano! Abby's rendition goes like this: "The moving truck stayed in Dallas for an extra week, so God let the piano cover go: boing, boing, boing and it jumped onto the piano inside the truck!" Well, our God is a God of impossibilities, so sure, that may be exactly what had happened!

We shared a meal together with Susan, Asaph and Joy Ecklund a week or so later and learned about how Joy's brother had recently moved across the country, and after weeks (or months?) of delays from their moving company, the company held their boxes hostage, refusing to move anything until larger sums were paid. The family had to call law enforcement for help and supervision so that the moving company would keep their end of the contract! After hearing that story, we were so incredibly thankful for our very minor losses.

The kids began the school year at Eastside Christian School on August 31st.



Then the testing of Caleb's faith and patience came. We were hoping his work start date would be September 1st, or even Sept 5th, a Monday, so we would be able to pay rent and bills. This chapter of life and learning of His faith in us will now continue in the next WA blog! 😊

 

Thursday, November 6, 2014

Chat with a Mainland Chinese Mom at the Galleria

Today I took the kids to the Galleria to play at the children's playground and they're pretty independent now, so I can just stand and watch with my hot cuppa. It was a very enjoyable time. I'm very grateful that the nasty intestinal virus is now pretty much gone, so I can enjoy food and drink again. And I'm now even more grateful after meeting this mother.

A Chinese mom who looked about my age was there with her son, who looked to be about Bethany's age, roughly 3 years old. Her attention was either solely on him or on her iphone. In the same area was a Chinese grandmother with a smaller infant boy, looked to be about 15-18 months old. Her attention was only on that younger boy. I didn't connect them as related at first. But then the mother would speak with the grandmother, and so I guess they knew each other.

As time went on, the mom came over and since I spoke Mandarin to the kids, she started to ask me some questions about my 2 kids. She asked if they were both born here in the States, if they were born vaginally or via C-section and how I normally care for them. Typical mom stuff, I didn't think too much about her line of questioning... it seems like she's just here for a brief time.

Anyway, what was really interesting was her fears and her experience back in the Mainland that was SHOCKING. I know that it's a "popular" thing to get c-sections there, but I didn't know about how the timing of a c-section could clash with the Chinese new year. Apparently since the post-op anesthesiologist was on new year's vacation, she didn't get any pain meds, and the staff just shrugged their shoulders at her. When it was time to take out the staples, she said she about went crazy from the pain. My jaw dropped. Then when her son was about 14 months old, she went on a trip to Japan and her husband and her found out they were pregnant again. Typically it's against the 1-child policy, but somehow they decided to go through with it (maybe 'cause they found out the child is a boy) and during the entire pregnancy, she was terrified that the c-section scar would rupture. Her doctors kept warning her that it could happen. When does THAT EVER happen?! And what doctor would scare a pregnant woman like that? I could understand that that could happen during natural labor, but during the 9 months of growth? Really?

Oh, and she happened to ask me twice if I chose the gender of my children. Um... no, I didn't. That's NEVER crossed my mind. ... like, huh?! It wasn't until later that I thought, oh, would I ever do selective abortion based on gender? Is that what she was wondering? Oh goodness. She did say that she'd like to possibly have a third, but only if it's a girl, 'cause she doesn't think she can handle 3 boys. Kudos to you Grandma Chu!!

But back to her birth stories - her second son was born also in a similar way to her first and it was terrifying. I really could not believe it. She was having full out panic attacks during her second c-section. No wonder she has so much fear in having c-sections and so many questions. She's only considering having a third child if having the birth here in the US. She wanted to know what it was like here. I told her it's definitely not like her past experience.

She seems to come from a well-off family as she told me that they would either purchase infant formula to take back with her during each trip here, or they'd have it shipped over whenever they run out. They never had their boys drink China-made formula.

Throughout our conversation, I realized that it was either her mother or mother-in-law that was the other Chinese grandmother who was taking care of her younger boy. Ahhh, makes sense now. No wonder she was shocked (her jaw literally did drop) when I told her I take care of both my kids by myself with the help of Caleb in the evenings. She even asked if he was helpful. Yep, I thank the Lord, he IS helpful! She asked about how I go grocery shopping or cook meals. Well, I just take the kids along and they play when we're at home... I don't know how else to do it! She says she doesn't know how she can do that because her son is too naughty. I shared with her that I just put them in the shopping cart and do what I need to do. I told her that when you speak as a parent, the kids need to learn how to obey. She says her son still defies her when she spanks him. Well, that's when you need to find a suitable punishment and stick with it! For some reason, all this was totally novel to her. She asked my age, and I found out that she's just 2 years younger than me. So being from the same generation, it was obvious we're very 2 VERY different cultures and mindsets.

Well, after that conversational exchange, I'm truly thankful for being here in the States, and thankful that Mom had brought us up learning how to obey and making spiritual things practical in our daily lives. I don't think this Chinese lady understood it when I said a few times, "I thank the Lord," when she marveled at how I raise my kids. The Lord teaches us, and we learn starting from our family lives. And most certainly I am blessed to learn these lessons here in the comfort of the US. Thus even more important to learn to obey the Voice of the Lord in such a "comfortable" environment.


Sunday, July 27, 2014

Food list for the third go-around


Hm, there's no way of catching up, so I don't think that I'll bother. I'll just do another "brain dump" since I feel this may be worth documenting. :D I'll continue this list for the next 6 months.

Odd cravings at odd times now in the 3rd pregnancy:
Biscuits & gravy at 3 in the afternoon
Rotisserie chicken at 10:30 am
Can't stand my own homemade coffee
Canned ravioli
Hot wings (why are these so addictive?)
Peanut butter marshmallow sandwiches
Mac 'n cheese for breakfast
Hawaiian fried rice for breakfast
Chimichangas
Mashed potatoes
Strawberry milk
Shin ramyun
Anything spicy at church


*Update 11/6/14: Things pretty much settled in terms of appetite by 3rd trimester. Need to put on some weight now though! :)

Friday, November 23, 2012


Well, it sure is an understatement to say that lots has happened. I'll try to keep this brief since I'm always trying to play catch-up anyway!

Joshua Chi-Chien Chu was born 11/12/12 at 1:17 pm, 6 lbs 7 oz, 19" long via c-section. We really wanted to try for a vbac (vaginal birth after cesarean) and I even had my membrane stripped just like last time with Bethany. We walked the Galleria mall about 4-5 times that week and our deadline was to have Josh come before the scheduled c-section. However God had the other route in mind for us, so who are we to argue with that?
The reason why our OB wanted Joshua out was because the last ultrasound showed that his growth was only at the 14th percentile for his developmental age (labeled as IUGR), which led to the possibility that the placenta was not giving him sufficient nutrients. The amniotic fluid was low as well. All this led to the decision that he should come out prior to 40 weeks. Yet at the same time, the doc recognized that Josh just may be small since Bethany and both Caleb and I are "constitutionally small".
I was having regular labor pains on Friday night 11/9, and by midnight it was only about 4 minutes apart. We happily got everything together and headed to the hospital. After about 3-4 hours, interestingly enough, all the contractions stopped on its own! We went home after not progressing any further.

Well, needless to say, we were at first disappointed, but after all our preparations, God remembered the needs of this small child of ours, and our joy was truly made complete when Josh came out healthy and was able to latch and breastfeed from the very beginning.


Yet it was just a beginning.

After our stay at the hospital and came home, it was only a short 2-3 days before we realized that his breathing was not quite right. It really gave us a scare when we heard his wheezing, gasping and laborious breathing sounds, especially during feeding. So by Tuesday 11/20, we were making a run to the children's hospital ER. With an 8 day old newborn. Murphy's Law hit when all was well as the pediatrician saw him and concluded that nothing was really wrong. Was it just bad congestion that had cleared up or what?


The trip to Josh's own pediatrician the next day revealed that he has laryngomalacia - a condition that hopefully he'll outgrow in time. It makes feeding a long process that tests our patience as he's wheezing and squeaking, trying to catch his breath while taking in a few gulps of milk here and there. It's exhausting so he gets tired and falls asleep. When I successfully wake him up, his latch is even tighter (ouch!) and he swallows another few big gulps. It takes quite a while. Keeps us humble I suppose!

Then 2 days ago I started to have massive bleeding. After it continued for several more hours, I went to the women's hospital ER and then sent home. It didn't stop or lighten up the next day so I was then given some meds... which thankfully now seems to be working!


On top of this, the hospital had added a desiccant to dry up Josh's umbilical cord, but it makes it super sharp and pokes him in the belly. We've been covering it up with cotton, but it makes the whole diaper changing experience that much more difficult.




So while it hasn't been the smoothest ride with our little Josh, we have many, many things to count as blessings! Josh did not come out with any complications, but rather quite healthy! The laryngomalacia is a temporary, (minor) inconvenience. I am recovering fairly well too.

And I'm terribly blessed with wonderful mothers who have watched and cared for Bethany during this time. G'ma Bor and G'ma Chu have played with her, entertained her and kept her well fed. They've cooked wonderful meals to keep us going.

My milk production is on overdrive! We're getting an extra chest freezer to store it all! I didn't have quite the experience with Bethany. While I had enough, this is enough plus lots more!


And I have a very supportive and loving husband who is doing all that he can to make sure all is well, despite work and fatigue each day too.
Above all, there is the Unseen Hand that supports us in ways that man cannot. His love and tender mercies allow us to make small steps forward each day. The love and prayers of the saints uphold us when we don't have the strength to face what is ahead.

Oh truly, bless the Lord, O my soul, bless His holy Name.



 






Friday, January 27, 2012

A year and counting

Sorry - I know a few people have asked me about this blog and for updates. I've been busy, lazy, tired, preoccupied, forgetful... all of the above. :P

Anyway, so much has happened in Bethany's short lifetime. The mailman the other day asked how old she was when we went to pick up the mail at the front of the apartment complex. I said, "13 months," to which he responded, "Oh, she's still brand new!"

Yep Beth, you're still brand new.

You gave us 1 month of good sleep at roughly 3 months. You slept about 7-8 hours and Mom & Dad would wake up thinking, "Whoa.. did Baby cry at all?" But then you hit a growth spurt, and I got up about once a night for feeding. Not bad, really. Then at 6 months, you started to sleep about 10 hours through the night and now you're hitting close to 12 hours. Makes us proud and happy to know you're growing so well.

Another thing which makes us proud is that you eat so well. What else could Mom & Dad ask for? Four good meals a day and such a regular GI system. Because of that we're now working on the potty-training at 13 months. You're a quick one. You were up on your feet and running around at 10 months. Let's pray that regarding the ways of the world - you won't be that quick at learning those things. Some habits and things... it's better to be naive to it.

Okay, I won't get ahead of myself here. This morning's Psalm is so appropriate. Especially in regards to the title of this blog: being a Texan Chu.

Psalm 87
His foundation is in the holy mountains.
The Lord loves the gates of Zion
more than all the other dwelling places of Jacob.
Glorious things are spoken of you, O city of God. Selah.
I shall mention Rahab and Babylon among those who know Me;
Behold, Philistia and Tyre with Ethiopia: 'This one was born there.'
But of Zion it shall be said, "This one and that one were born in her";
And the Most High Himself will establish her.
The Lord will count when He registers the peoples,
"This one was born there." Selah.
Then those who sing as well as those who play the flutes shall say, 
"All my springs of joy are in you."

There's a tie in my heart to Seattle - to Washington. Like I always say to Brother Sun, "I'll come back, like salmon." I was born there and I have an affinity toward it. Bethany was born here in Houston, in this great state of Texas and perhaps she might catch that thing they call, "Texas pride." I grin.



But what matters most, while man may say, I was born here or there, I want to be counted in the city of God when He registers His peoples. The Lord cares about this City. He's building and establishing it. Not only do we get a special birth certificate saying, we're belong to Zion, but He's placed an even more special seal in us... His own Life. So I harken to this eternal city. May all my family, Dad and Bethany and all unborn children - may we all be registered in His glorious city."All my springs of joy are in you."

Friday, January 21, 2011

Growing each day

I find myself occasionally missing the "smallness" of when Bethany was a wee 6 pounder. But at the same time I'm very happy to see how she's growing well each day. We're amazed at the changes seen with each passing day. And once again we reflect and see how if we simply eat and drink of the Lord's abundance each day, continually rest in Him, we will most naturally grow! :)

Short progression shown here:


Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Bethany's Story

Bethany Chi-Hwei Chu
DOB: 1:54 am 12/15/10
6 lbs 2 oz
19.5"

Caleb and I went to see the doc the morning of 12/14 for the usual weekly OB visit. It was the last NST (non-stress test) and then we visited with the doctor. She wanted to induce Bethany a bit early, given the diabetes which we had already spoken of a week or two before. Our goal was to set a date for the induction. During the visit, the doctor did a bit of manual massage and I went from being about 1 cm dilated to about 3 cm. We didn't know that she had also stripped the membranes, which really preps things for the body to start the whole labor process.

She encouraged us to go walking and said to us as we left the clinic, "I'll maybe see you tonight or tomorrow!" This surprised us, but as we were walking to the parking garage we thought that given her experience, she may be onto something.

I had been finishing up transcribing for Bro Sun's WCCC 2010 messages and the last one that needed to be done was on the topic, "Finishing the Race." If my doctor was correct about going into labor that evening, I needed to finish things up. Talk about "finishing the race"!! I finished and emailed out the last transcript. Whew! :)

We headed out to the Galleria for a walk around the mall sometime around 4-5 pm. It didn't feel too much like Braxton-Hicks false contractions by this time. I was having 2-3 stronger contractions and by the time we stopped by McDonalds for a small bite to eat, the contractions were more regular. I know I'm not supposed to have any food in my stomach prior to delivery, but I figured a small McFish and Sprite wasn't going to hurt if I needed the energy for many hours to come! :P

Now that the contractions were regular and things were progressing normally, we figured it was time to head home. I showered, since the thought of not showering for a few days if I go into the hospital didn't seem too appealing. Thinking ahead, we thought of who could take care of Polo while we were gone. So we called our friend who lives close by to come over and see the dog and get acquainted.

Around 9 pm, our friend and 2 others come by - a bit wide-eyed as they'd never encountered someone going into labor before. While chatting and getting to know Polo, I had to make an announcement: my water broke. It was time to get to the hospital!

We got to the hospital a little after 11pm. Don't forget to signal Caleb - we don't want a traffic violation ticket while getting to the hospital! :P Fortunately it takes only 5-7 minutes to get there.

Our L&D room was room 5. Fetal heart monitor was strapped on and all the papers were signed. We were just getting settled in for the many hours ahead and the contractions were definitely no piece of cake. My birth plan was not to take any meds, but to go as naturally as possible. My OB doctor had not arrived yet, but I was told several times that this wasn't about being heroic and if I wanted anything, all I had to do was ask.

Sometime close to midnight, Bethany's heart rate went below 100 and the nurses had me turn a few times. Her heart rate fortunately went back up and all was well. Because of the fluctuation, the doctor didn't think it was a good idea for me to have any pain meds via IV. I was okay with that explanation.



A little after 1 am, the contractions all of a sudden increased in intensity by a whole lot. I generally can bear the pain, but this was unbearable. If I had only labored for about 2 hours at the hospital and it was going to continue at this rate, I didn't think that I could handle it. I barely could make it out, "Yes, I want the epidural." So Caleb was asked to leave the room for about 15 minutes while they administered the epidural. The needle and injection enters through the spinal cord, and while leaning over, there was a sharp pain in my tummy/uterus. The epidural was inserted without any problems, but right before I laid back down, the fetal heart rate plummeted. Bethany's heart rate decreased rapidly and was down in the 50s. If the heart rate is in the 50s - it's basically flat-lining. My nurse immediately calls for help and many people enter the room. One nurse tries to prevent me from bleeding out, another reports that my uterus is too firm and a third nurse tries to push the baby for any change or response. No change.

I'm given oxygen and before I know it, I'm wheeled into another room and it dawns on me: Bethany must be saved and she's going to have to come out now. Lord, please protect her!

Meanwhile, Caleb only knew of the epidural and is wandering around the halls looking for a waiting area. He found the c-section waiting room and sits down, nodding his head to another fellow dad-to-be. After a few brief moments, he hears a page overhead for all nurses to go to Room 2. He thinks, "Well, we're in room 5, so all is well." Lots of people are running to Room 2, but then a nurse runs into the waiting room and says, "Mr. Chu, your wife is having an emergency c-section. Put this on, and we'll see you in room 2." In great surprise, Caleb puts on the scrubs and heads to room 2, baffled as to what had happened.

At the OR, I was still conscious and started wondering if what had happened to Bethany was because of my request for the epidural. I asked the anesthesiologist if that was the case, and he responds, telling me that it was good that I had asked for the epidural when I did. Because of it, I did not have to go under general anesthetics and be put out entirely, being intubated and all. But now I could be awake for the procedure. Caleb came in and held my hand and very quickly tells me, Bethany is now out. What a moment. :)

Caleb left after a few moments to see her and I felt every pull, push and tug as the doctor and nurses close me up. Throughout the whole thing, I didn't feel any fear or anxiety, but knew that somehow, our Lord would watch over all of us. He is my only source of strength and help for my daughter, because this entire matter is not in my control.

Soon enough, Caleb comes back holding Bethany and I saw her for the first time. I had never imagined such a beautiful child would be my own child. She was small, very pink and every feature was perfectly tiny. My hands were numb and stretched out with IVs and blood pressure monitors attached so I couldn't hold her, but my daughter had arrived! Her Apgar and all the reports up to that time was that she was very normal. I couldn't have asked for more.

When they stamped Bethany's footprints on the certificate, they asked if Caleb wanted her footprints on his scrubs. Sure, why not? We now have her feet printed on his scrubs as a momento. :)

The doctor who performed the c-section told us that it looked like what had happened was a placental abruption. Because everything had happened so fast, my own OB had not even arrived yet, and this on-call doctor was known to rarely do c-sections, unless in the case of an emergency. Part of my uterus looked "old", meaning that blood had not reached it for awhile, so that there was a lack of oxygen to that part. Bethany also went without oxygen for a period of time. The odd thing about this was that I had a very healthy pregnancy, low-risk for all things, a well-controlled gestational diabetes and no trauma to have caused the abruption. Only the Lord had planned and had watched over all these details.

I went into the recovery room after the procedure was completed, however we were not out of the woods yet. After recovery, I went to the post-partum unit and part of the usual routine, nurses would come in and check my vitals every 2-3 hours. They measured my blood pressure and temperature. Throughout Wednesday, I measured a high 101.4 and 101.6 degree temperature. I was given a continual IV drip to keep my vein open and a regimen of antibiotics. Our prayer was that whatever was causing my fever would be taken care of and if I could be fever-free for 24 hours, I would be able to go home at the set date of 12/18, Saturday. Praise the Lord for hearing our prayers an the prayers of our family and all the saints. The fever broke and while it can be nice being taken care of at an hospital, it really is so much nicer to be able to go home. Having blood drawn for more tests, vitals taken every few hours, a continual IV drip inserted into the body really was not easy. I had more important things to learn and attend to: my baby!

The Lord has been our ever-present help in times of trouble and I give all thanks and praise to Him. Each time I see Bethany and hold her, I'm amazed at how wonderful He is. In the heart of her parents, she has been consecrated to Him for His use, His service, His delight. Her Chinese name means great favor, in the eyes of both God and man. May her life be given for the favor of our Lord and Savior.

While typing this story seems a bit long, it's only the beginning. I thank the Lord for the experience, and yes, I thank Him for pain meds too! :) He's blessed me with a wonderful husband who has taken such good care of me and Bethany in these first days of her life and my mom, a newly-minted grandmother has come to serve with such a joyful heart as well. I have much to be thankful for and thank Him and thank Him some more.




Thanks to all who have also interceded for us during the last week. God bless you during this holiday season, may our attention be directed continually upon our Lord Jesus Christ.

Monday, December 13, 2010

Upon Baby's Arrival

I feel like I need to have something profound or memorable to say here, given that we're going to be first time parents in a very short amount of time. But I think the only thing that really resounds through my mind and heart, despite the entrance to a grand, unknown world, is that our focus is still to remain on the Lord.

I'm so appreciative of the baby shower that the sisters, aunties and mothers put together for me and 2 other expectant mothers last month. They shared with me so much, and the main thing that I walked away with is simply that while the focus may be on the labor, delivery, baby, my health, etc etc etc for awhile, we cannot ever lose sight of Who is actually the center and attention of our lives: our Jesus.

People are grinning and asking if we're ready for the sleep deprivation, if we have everything we need, when our mothers and families will be coming, if we need any help, and we're so thankful for all their love and support. And during all these changes, it's the greatest comfort to know that we can still cast all our cares upon the shoulders of our Heavenly Father.

I'm still amazed that it's been 9 months. I can only bow my head and worship Him.

Beth, may you be a life in which our Lord Jesus can find rest and health. May your heart be a place where Jesus is satisfied, where He is the Head of the home, and through you bring much blessing to all those around you. That's Mom's prayer for you in all these days before you arrive!


May 8, 2010; roughly 2 months into conception

25 weeks along, staying at the Wei's after arriving in Houston from Seattle

Now in new apartment, it's a hot Texan summer and baby is at 29 weeks

Family portrait session in the bathroom again! 38 weeks!

Yes, we are nose-scrunchers.

And we have a hard time being serious.

Mom's ready. Dad's ready. Bethany, we're excited to see you!
And Lord, she belongs to You.

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

2-3 more weeks left!

We're getting close!!

Ultrasound, NST and OB visit today and all went well! Baby is estimated to be at about 6 lbs, 1 oz, in the 49th percentile. We're right on track.  For everyone's well-being, we still may expect Bethany to be home a little bit before Christmas. Her head is already in the downward position. So she IS kicking me in the ribs with her feet!

I'm now having slight Braxton-Hicks contractions which are very manageable. I've been dilated about 1 cm since last week, and feeling okay. Trying to get some amount of walking and moving around done each day, though I have to say, I still like to get +10 hrs of sleep each night. My joints in my hands are pretty stiff when I wake up in the morning, but I honestly don't have much complaints. I'm very thankful that this has been an overall easy pregnancy.

The preparation of having Bethany come has been an interesting experience. We're looking forward with lots of excitement and anticipation, yet that exact time seems quite elusive. We know she's coming, but when is the big question! Isn't it very much similar to our preparation now for the return of our Lord? Then when the time gets closer and closer, there will be more and more signs. Right now my body is naturally gearing up with the "false" contractions and as time gets closer, it will be more regular, more closely spaced, etc, etc.

Our God is a very practical One huh? He shows us spiritual principles and truths in such real ways that we can relate to. I'm glad He does that, otherwise it'll be hard for us simple-minded ones to understand such an awesome God.

Bethany hiccups EVERY day.

We thank the Lord for all the love, prayers, support and advice that friends and family have been giving us. We're incredibly blessed to be surrounded with such help and love. May the Lord bless you!!

Saturday, November 6, 2010

Healthy eating makes for healthy mom & baby

I failed the 3 hour glucose test, though I don't know by how much exactly yet. I'll ask specifics at my next OB visit in 3 days. I was informed that I have to test myself 4 times a day to monitor where my glucose levels are: fasting when I wake up in the morning and 2 hours after every meal. It seems like a lot, but after a few days, the routine of it really isn't so bad. While I was fairly careful about what I ate during the first 6-7 months, I've definitely been more careful since this latest news.

While I do miss having rice, noodles, bread and my biggest temptation: easy mac, I don't mind keeping hunger at bay by simply eating healthier snacks throughout the day. (Carbs are okay in very small and limited quantities though.)
Cottage cheese with small amount of jam and fruit, string cheese, rice cakes, wheat crackers, hard-boiled eggs, yogurt, etc all do the trick in tying me over until the next meal.  Some exercise and brisk walking has helped a bit too.
31.5 wks

My levels since testing myself starting this past week have all been very normal. Thank the Lord!

It's a happy feeling knowing that while I'm doing good for my own health, Bethany is growing well and starting off healthy too.

There doesn't seem like there's anything too exciting to report, but it is a bit daunting when the numbers hit us over the head... we're going to meet this little girl of ours in 7 weeks. I need to get going packing my hospital bag! We've toured the Women's Hospital here and the facility is very nice. It's only a 5 minute drive away!


Caleb's work has been going well and some big projects are coming down the pike soon. He'll be busier when all that gets clarified, but he's definitely enjoying the work. He has clinic twice a week and the doctors, the advisors and mentors couldn't be a better fit for where we're at right now. Our Lord certainly places the right people in our lives at the right time. :)

It's finally starting to feel like fall here in Houston. I relish the very few cloudy days, the rain, and am terribly happy at temperatures in the low 70s and upper 60s. It would be nice to see some leaves with different colors, but there just aren't that many trees to have leaves with different colors around here!

May the Lord keep us strong and healthy in body, soul and spirit so that we can live to the very fullest for His glory, testimony and service!

Meanwhile, we're all trying hard to catch more zzzzzz's before Beth comes... :)
Polo with his 2 most favorite items in the whole wide world!

Monday, October 25, 2010

Which week is this?

It's slightly on the annoying side that I chalk it up to "pregnancy brain"... but without Caleb's iphone app, I can't seem to remember exactly which week I'm at. I think I'm at week 32... roughly 9 more weeks to go!

We're praying that my 3-hr glucose test tomorrow goes well, that we keep gestational diabetes at bay! Meanwhile, I'm trying to do my part in cutting down a bit of the sugar, carbs and adding in more exercise.

Bethany's movements are still there and quite strong, and I'm glad for her rest & sleep cycles. Gives me a bit of a break. :)

Work for Caleb is going well and by His grace the draft of the first paper has been submitted to the doctor.

It's still a bit too sunny for my "clouds 'n rain" habit of Seattle, but I'm thankful that it's not like how it was back in August & September!

For pics on the apt, see here:

Apartment Pictures

In terms of lessons we're learning, it's about waiting on the Lord. While we expect and know He will give an answer, it's also such a blessing (in disguise at times) to know that it's a process of being drawn closer to Himself. He will provide and lead the way forward (more specifically regarding residency) when it is His good time.

Blessings!

Monday, October 4, 2010

El Mundo but not el mundo

El Mundo is "the world" in Spanish. We're learning to live in and on El Mundo, but not be of "el mundo." :)

We're moved in, thank the Lord! The movers arrived last Tuesday 09/28. Despite some "minor" things, we consider ourselves very blessed that everything arrived and in fairly good condition. We heard some horror stories about other cross-country moves and balk at the horrendous services that "professional" movers provide. Our earthly possessions are here and we're thankful.

I'm now working on the last set of office things. Taking my time and glad we're nearing the end of all this packing/unpacking business.

Our initiation into the state of Texas was the vehicle registration and drivers' licensing process. It took us nearly 4 hours or so and a nice bite out of our pocket book! Caleb grinned in his new license picture (probably 'cause he was glad that we were nearly done), while mine looks more like I'm about to cry. Let's just say that maybe it was the hormones. :P

The transition has been tough for Polo. Our 5 year old Maltese boy had his first cross-country road trip in the hot sun, got shocked a few times by a shock collar at motels and got sick twice after eating things he should not have eaten while staying at two families' homes. He finally arrived at his new home yesterday and we realized that he still had a terrible stomach ache from the day before. I'm happy to report he's doing better today.

Our next task is to find primary care providers, a new OB doc as well as a pediatrician for Bethany. We're now officially in the 3rd trimester! She's getting bigger and we're excited to meet the lil' active girl.

Today is also Caleb's first day of work! It's likely several hours of orientation stuff, but we're incredibly thankful for this new start. It's been a bit of an anxious journey not knowing exactly what to expect, but we trust that in all things, He's got the best lessons and plans to continue this work of molding us more into His image.

Blessed be the Lord, who daily bears our burden, the God Who is our salvation.
Psalm 68:19

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Wedding + Roadtrip

What a wonderful past weekend! God again proves Himself to be One Who answers prayers. We're thankful for such a beautiful wedding for Stephen and Jen and can see that they're also great event planners. Bethany now has a wonderful aunt! Woohoo! :)

While it was a time of celebration, we packed in (pun not intended) the last of our move from Bellevue. The movers finally got everything loaded up into the truck by 1:30-2 am Sunday morning. We left early for the airport so that Mom could get back to Portland in time to pick up food for the love feast. It was an uneventful flight back to Houston. It was a bit of an odd feeling that we went from "home" back to "home." I suppose as long as we're "home" in the Lord, we're simply travelers on this earth anyway!

After resting up a bit, we decided to take advantage of our time before Caleb starts work. We drove to Galveston and visited the Moody Gardens Aquarium and then walked the historic downtown district on the Strand for a daytrip. Seeing some pictures of what Hurricane Ike did back in 2009 was incredible. We had some BlueBell ice cream (yum!!) and bought a bottle of award-winning raspberry chipotle sauce. I haven't had time to try it yet, but I'll let y'all know.
Driving into Galveston, which is basically an island, though connected by land a little further south. Notice the dark clouds overhead!

A bit smudgy here, but it was one of the largest rainfalls we'd ever been in, or drove through as we saw the Gulf of Mexico.


After visiting the aquarium for about 2 hours, everything cleared up. The tourist attractions here at Moody Gardens are built as these glass pyramid buildings. It was fun and I'd recommend it!

Our prayers are now with Stephen and Jen as they make their way from Seattle/Portland down to Corpus Christi by car. May the Lord keep them safe and grant them an enjoyable trip!

Friday, September 10, 2010

Apartment living

It was truly Providence that we were able to drive by the new house on a Sunday evening during Labor Day weekend. We saw for ourselves what the neighborhood actually looks like during an evening and got to take a look at the likes of our new neighbors. That's when we realized that it was not the place for us. Not only did we have a very unsettled feeling, but a lack of peace and security when we drove through Merganser Drive. While it was very disappointing, we're thankful that we found this out before it was too late.

Back to square one.

We hoped to still purchase a house in a better neighborhood and every night at dinner we'd ask elderly Brother & Sister Wei and Stephen about different areas in Houston. We learned a lot about the demographics, school districts, freeways and traffics. Good to know now rather than later.

After looking around at our price range in Sugar Land and realizing that we really couldn't afford something even on the side of small and new, it would be best to rent first. We would be more certain about our whereabouts once residency is secured as well. That way we won't be tied into real estate fluctuations either.

So we looked into renting an apartment that would be suitable. And long story short, we're now about 1-2 blocks away from Reliant Stadium, in a complex with mostly medical students & staff, close to quite a few brothers & sisters from church, and at a newer, fully upgraded facility. Our new place is on the first floor (yay, less stairs for me to climb!), accepts pets, AND has a shuttle that's door to door for Caleb that's only a 20 minute ride to his work.

Thank the Lord that despite a setback, He's still prepared what is best for us.

Welcomed correction: we're now going to be located in 2-3 weeks on El Mundo Road. :)

Saturday, September 4, 2010

Baby Bethany

Bethany is at 25 weeks now, so that means about 15 more weeks to go! She has been moving around/shifting her weight for the last month or so, and it felt more like a change in pressure for me. Then about 2 days ago I was surprised to wake up to odd bumps and blips in my belly. It was a little startling to figure out that she was kicking and stretching her feet. I told her dad, and being still half-asleep said in his quiet and stern voice, "Bethany, don't kick Mommy." It took a second before he realized that, oh! She's actually moving her appendages now! We had been waiting for that since week 16. :)

The crazy citrus/acidic cravings have just about passed now, though I still do enjoy the sour stuff.

I'm not terribly keen on some of the unattractive side-effects of pregnancy, causing some discomfort and ... unattractive effects. Oh well, comes with the territory.
I'm also starting to look for good OB docs here, which really isn't too hard, given that there's a huge medical community here in Houston. It's been recommended to stay close to our new home, so I'll likely be heading to Women's Hospital of Texas at the medical center.

In other side news, one of Bethany's uncles is getting married in 2 weeks! We're excited!

Friday, September 3, 2010

House on Merganser Drive

We arrived in Houston Saturday 8/28. We started looking for a house after church on Sunday the 29th. We began to pray that the Lord would prepare us the right place - both for His use and for our family to live and grow.
The specifics:
*3 bedrooms - so we can accommodate family when they come to stay with us.
*Nice kitchen (preferably with an island)
*One story so Steph wouldn't have too much space to clean
*Space for a grand piano
*Long hallway for Polo to run
*Grass in the backyard for Polo's relief
*Separate toilet-room for uninterrupted reading and relief
*Good neighborhood that is close to church, work and other brothers & sisters
*Reasonably priced so we wouldn't stress about monthly payments
*New house so we wouldn't have to worry too much about repairs

After praying through these specifics and searching the area for 2.5 days, we signed the contract for this exact house on Tuesday 8/31 - the last day of August (our offer was accepted while filling out some paperwork right there and then!). The sales agent is also a Christian and when she asked us how we found them, she responded by saying, "Amen!" when we told her it was the Holy Spirit. :) Our rate was locked in yesterday at an all-time historic low after we met with the loan officer. If all goes well, God-willing, we'll close by the end of September and be able to move in!

What can I say? God is absolutely amazing. It was a family effort, with the in-laws on both sides contributing so much to make this possible. Thank you and thank you so much!

Throughout this whole process, I can only bow my head and give all worship and gratitude to my Heavenly Father. In all that He has done for us, may our lives, no matter how big or small the details be lived for Him.

While He indeed provides for us, we're remembering that we're simply aliens and travelers on this earth, just a'passing through.
Selah.

High-yield August 2010

August seems to be a very eventful month in our lives! While I can most certainly write an essay on all the details of what has happened to us, I'll break it down for easy & quick reading. Though let me just say from the get-go that we praise and thank God for being absolutely amazing and awesome in every single step of the way. We wouldn't be where we are if it weren't for Him.

7/23: Caleb received a job offer (post-doc research position) at MD Anderson Cancer Research Center in Houston, TX. We're moving!
8/2: Learned that we are now expecting Bethany

8/8: 1 year anniversary
8/19: last day of work for Steph
8/20-23: Crazy-busy packing & cleaning in workable temperatures, praise God!

Trip
8/23 pm: Caleb, Steph & Polo departed from Bellevue, WA, drove to Portland, Oregon
8/24: Caleb, Steph, Polo & Steph's Dad departed from Portland, OR, drove to Twin Falls, Idaho
8/25: Departed from Twin Falls, Idaho, (saw the actual Twin Falls) drove to Green River, Utah
8/26: Departed from Green River, visited Arches National Park, stopped briefly at the Four Corners (the point where 4 states come together at 1 spot - Arizona, Utah, New Mexico & Colorado) drove to Santa Rosa, New Mexico
8/27: Departed from Santa Rosa, New Mexico, drove to Corsicana, Texas
8/28: Departed from Corsicana and made it safe and sound to Houston!

*We thank the Lord that we never back-tracked on any of the routes, didn't get lost and made good progress each day.
*We thank the Lord for giving Dad the strength to make the 5 day trek with us... couldn't have done it without him!
*We thank the Lord for keeping us safe, we stopped once to add engine oil, and the cars made it safely. The smaller `98 Honda Accord arrived in Houston just in time for brake work, v-tech replacement and oil change.
*We thank the Lord for Mom's cookin' that kept us going for most of the trip.
*Since Dad's background is in geophysics, we had a tour guide who was able to explain all the interesting geography and landscapes which made everything that much more interesting.

*Polo is now staying with Ryan & Jill in Katy, TX. The little furry guy is sad, but we're thankful that he has such a wonderful and caring couple to stay with for these few weeks of transition.
*We're very thankful for the Wei's as they're letting us stay with them, and it's a mutually beneficial stay. We're happy to assist them in their daily needs, and we get to enjoy of their hospitality and fellowship.

I have lots of pics to upload... just found my cable to upload all the shots we took during the road trip. WIll post soon!

Here it is:
Texas Road Trip